Life isn’t about finding yourself. life is about creating yourself, in the process of creating yourself, you will find yourself.
One way to go about life is to keep trying things until you figure things out until you find that philosopher wisdom that turns leads into Gold.
Fulfilment is one thing we all desire in life, not just money. We chase money so that we can buy experiences or possession which we hope will bring us happiness that might lead to fulfilment in life.
The thing about life is most of the things that bring fulfilment to us in aren’t bought with money, they are things that can be cultivated and nurtured, they are things that come to us freely, things we didn’t have to pay for, things like the air we breathe, family, friendships, etc.
I have always believed that books, posts and movies can inspire us to us to finding meaning and fulfilment in life.
The Movie “3 idiots” changed my perceptive about so many things in life, it was one of the movies that have inspired me to keep going after my dreams.
The first time of seeing the movie was around 2013, though the movie was released on 23 December 2009.
In 2015 when I was in school, I rewatched it, recently I watched it again, it seems this was the time the message became more clear to me.
If you have not watched the movie I suggest you do
Here are some valuable take away lessons from the movie:
A. Don’t be afraid to challenge any convention that is not empowering you
Most of our parents want us to live by their rules and beliefs. But trust me, most (if not all) of them did not follow the rules or beliefs of their own father.
Life is about discoveries, human is actually allowing you the freedom enough to discover life on your own. Once you an adult you deserve the freedom from everyone to figures things out, that includes finding opportunities for ourself
We need to find a way to let them know that just as they have to lead their lives, we are also entitled to learn and lead our own life.
Their duty is to teach us what they need to and guild us to an extent and our own duty is to find, explore and lead our life.
B. Study to be accomplished not to be affluent.
I applied for Business Administration back in 2013, but I was offered Marketing. I didn’t question it, as a matter of fact, I was very happy. I have had stories of people who have tried for years to get into school but couldn’t.
After being out of school for many years, I was excited to get back to school, and more importantly, I’m going to be called a graduate and I will obtain a degree.
This is just the problem “going to school just to get Certificate” and this is promoted by the promises made by the industrialist some decades ago “go to school, get a degree and get a job” the thing is this plan doesn’t work anymore, everything has changed we are now living in a digital age where one small computer can do the work of 10 people faster and more efficient.
But, scarcity of job is not the only problem we have with the “go to school strategy” the mentality most people wear to school is also a big problem.
If a certificate is removed from the merits list of 4 years in college, most people won’t even near the school gate. Because most people don’t even have passion for the course they are studying.
Most people goal is just the certificate, they can cram up answersome to write and pass exams just to get the certificate.
Most people just want to be known as someone who went to school, instead of being known as someone who is skilled, educated and suffocated.
Which should be the real kind of education we should seek.
C. Don’t chase success, chase excellence
Success can not be universally measured, success for you can be a state of failure for some other person.
The kind of success most people seek is always on the run, the more they stretch to it the faster it runs, it can be an endless race in life, and since you can’t win the race you are unlikely to be real successful.
There are people who are doing something different regards to success, some people have redefined success and are celebrating every minute because of the little things they are accomplishing each day, for me, it’s more about completing this post.. a big success for me.
Rededine what success means to you but don’t based it on things you can’t control.
D. Friends are men greatest bosom
Friendships is worth a Gold, they support you, probably not with money or praises, but by believing in you an encouraging you.
I’m actually not supposed to comment about the merit of a good friend, because I’m probably not a good one, I know i have friends that I haven’t check on for awhile, but they do know that they still have their spot in my heart.
Good friends are like a pillar that will support you when the bricks of your life have all fallen apart. If you find one, you are already blessed.
E. Fear is one of men greatest obstacles
“Fear, the jailer of destiny, he who overcomes it has become a free man” James Allen
Right now, I’m scared of how people will react to this post, what if they criticize it or what if they don’t like it. Always “what if” I wonder how many people this kind of thought has hindered from living their dreams.
If we can overcome that part of our brain that keeps looking for reasons why things won’t work, we will experience more possibilities than we can imagine. Seth Godin calls that part of the brain “the lizard brain” making it easy for us to seeing why things can’t be done, hinding every possibilities for us, even in situations we have the ability and capabilities to try or figure out things.
In the movie “3 idiots” Rancho one of the idiots said to the other 2 idiots, “do you know why I’m doing well with my studies? do you know why I’m at the top of the class? “The 2 idiots said no. He told them “because I’m doing what I love, I’m following my passion.”
He said to one of the idiots, photography is what you love doing, get out of here and go chase your passions, stop wasting your time in the engineering department at Imperial College.
The other idiot thought he has gotten a point to floor Rancho, “ok telling me” he spoke out “I love engineering why are my not doing well?”
“Let me see your hand” Rancho requested.
Five fingerstar, how many rings? Maybe one for exam success, one to score As, who knows what others are for. “How can you live today when you are scared of tomorrow?” Rancho asked.
It’s impossible to succeed when you are living in fear, even when what you are doing is your passion.
At the end they listened to Rancho, 1 idiot followed his dreams, the other idiot let go of his fears.
Where they happy or fulfilled at the end? the movie was a story 3 guys we where living thein dreams, so I think they found happiness and fulfilment, which is what matters most and thanks to a good friend (one of the idiot) for believing and encouraging his friends to become more.
In a nutshell, here is what I learnt from the movie.
Rededine success yourself.
Follow your passion if it promises you the kind of life you wish for yourself.
Study to learn, improve 1% every day, don’t just learn take actions, action is the bridge to manifest your dreams.
Build good relationship your happens count on that.
Let go of fears and see where all these changes will take you in the next 1 to 10 years.
To your success